When we are focused on situations in our lives that are challenging, we experience upset, anger, sadness, confusion,and a sense of powerlessness. All of these emotions are just fine. Do not try and stuff them they are telling you something important. Instead of believing that they need to go away, the truth is they need to experience love.
We may have to go through something that takes our emotions up and down. As we learn to know it is safe to be honest about how we are doing and feeling, we find that we can recenter in ourselves, finding some peace and love inside. Eventually you will find peace and love overflowing back at you like a light appearing at the end of the tunnel. The tunnel being our fears and beliefs that we are alone and powerless.
The default position can be I feel afraid, angry ,sad and alone but, I know I am loved and I am love even when I feel this way. There is no shame only growth from our experience. When we learn to embrace the truth , we have truthful relationships with ourselves and others. Do not deny yourself all of you.The truth is we all feel and are vulnerable. Love the truth. Deception just keeps coming back to you through your own game with yourself. Find your courage and love to be authentic and embrace it all.
So try to love yourself when you feel in the darkness, reminding yourself it is temporary. Do not judge your vulnerabilities. They are human, when you love your vulnerabilities, you can be free in your love. All will soften and find its way to heal.
You are love, remember to go there and comfort yourself. You will find you move into grace from this place that you are, and as you learn to do this it will suddenly just be light.